How to Escape the Friend Zone

Okay, so you're locked in the Friend Zone. Unfortunately you weren't lucky enough to avoid it. You really want to get out and let her know that you can be and want to be more than just friends. Well two things will have to factor in...your words and your actions.

Now when some men take the "Limited Availability" approach, it  may backfire because they fail to realize the key component. The keys to making this successful are timing and moderation. You don't want to be too unavailable because, trust me, she will make you an afterthought. If you're already in the Friend Zone, then you probably made yourself too available from the beginning. Also, you do not want to, all of a sudden, become unavailable. Remember that most women are detailed oriented. They tend to pick up on trends and focus on things deeper than most men would. So if you become unavailable too soon and/or too often, then they'll start to think "what's his problem?". 

Mr. Nice Guy                            Mr. Douche-Bag 

Some blogs recommend that you change up your demeanor. Other blogs would advise that if you were the "Mr. Nice Guy" you should turn into the "I don't care" or "Mr. Douche-Bag" kind of guy. I don't believe in these, "Light Switch" approaches. The Light Switch approach basically consists of you doing things one way or  the complete polar opposite. Rather, I would say take the "Dimmer Switch" approach.You want to make this all a gradual transition.  If you drastically go from the Nice Friend, to the Unavailable Single Guy, she may be quick to classify you as being "fake". (Which it would be, by the way.) And honestly at the end of the day, if you aren't that type of person in the first place, you really shouldn't have to compromise who you are just for the sake of another person. You should respect yourself enough where that isn't necessary. 

The last thing to help avoid and actually escape the Friend Zone is to actually open your mouth and communicate with her. Go ahead and tell her your feelings for her. Let her know that you love the friendship you have, but you would want more. I know the fear for most guys in these Zones is being rejected. You cannot continue living in this fear. Besides, if she rejects you then you can finally put an end to the living torture you're already going through. Not only that, but you can stop wasting your valuable time, and begin to focus your efforts on other women who would actually want to be with you. 

Now you may be asking, "What if I'm in the Brother Zone? How do I get out of that?". Well that's probably the easiest thing to answer: you can't..you're stuck...you're done...give it up...the dream is over! It's never gonna happen.