So let's say, for whatever reason, he STILL doesn't get it. Now it's time to play your trump card. Put that fella in the BROTHER ZONE!!! This is the worst possible zone any man could be in. It's far worse than the Friend Zone because at least in the friend zone there's a possibility of getting out of it. (We'll touch on that later)
WARNING: Ladies, please be advised that you should only use these guidelines and tactics only IF you do not EVER want to be with this male friend in a romantic way. Results may be long lasting and irreversible. Please proceed with caution.
The key factor here is your conversations with him. You basically need to talk to him like he's one of your closest female friends. So you will have to talk to him about stuff you would only talk to another female about.
Example:
She Says: "Hey did you see that? He's got a great ass don't you think?"
He Says: "Huh???"
He Thinks: "Huhhh???"
Yes, that's right. Talk to him about other guys' appearance just like he was one of the girls. This may not be the most effective method, but what's important is the fact that through your comment, you're telling him that "I see you as someone I'm not romantically interested in, but yet I'm so comfortable with you that I can talk to you about anything." That will counter any other potential thoughts he may have tried to think of to justify that you may like him in the way he wants you to like him.
Remember in the Friend Zone Blog, I mentioned talking about telling him the good things that are going on in your relationship. Well, now we have to take a step further in the Brother Zone:
Example:
She Says: "Omg, DANNY, I am so sore from last night. Michael was an animal! Whew!"He Says: "........."
He Thinks: "Ohh COME ON!!"
Most men do not want to ever hear about another man potentially being sexually superior. Hurts the ego. Men put a lot of stock into their sexual prowess when it comes to pursuing females...and when that gets threatened by another male, that can really make us think twice. Now, I do not advocate crushing another man's ego in this manner, unless absolutely necessary. So please use this with extreme caution.
Lastly, one of the most effective things to say and do to solidify this guy in the Brother Zone, is to just tell him honestly and directly.
Example:
She Says: Hey, Danny, I honestly love our friendship and I do not want to change that. So much so, that you're just like a brother to me. I really can't wait until you find another woman who will really make you happy. Hey, actually I think that I have the perfect girl for you too!
Notice the misdirection tactic involved in what was said. You want to deflect his romantic views of you and point them into the direction of other women. That way, again, he will get the message that your mind is not even remotely thinking about him in a romantic way. At the same time, you also show him that you genuinely care for him by talking to him about other girls that may be better suited for him. This way he won't think that you're just a "big fat stinky head", (Danny's really immature) and instead you're really trying to be a real true friend.
So Ladies, I hope this helps in some way. If you still have a guy who doesn't understand any of the past tips I mentioned, then you probably want to just cut off all communication with him, and distance yourself from him. There's a very good chance that you have a stalker on your hands. Remember, restraining orders are your friend ;-)
And for those who were wondering, I do have a follow up blog to this for the fellas..."How to Avoid the Friend Zone"
Peace, Love, and God Bless.
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